Tuesday, December 4, 2007

Thinking about lives...

You know, last night I decided that I was too hard on my bil.
So...with that in mind...

I have my very last messge to ya Kev..

I realize that you had a rough life growing up and all. You were the middle child in a big family who didn't exactly have all things grand going for them.
That can do alot to ruin a self esteem.
The only time I saw you happy is when you were with "S". Too bad that never worked out.

For quite sometime you've been about as annoying as ear wax., which in the grand scheme of life, all things considered, isn't too bad at all.

As I sat around last night thinking things over, I had this thought..a brillant thought.
I could just picture you sitting there seething everyday, checking out your brothers family blog, jumping at anything to crap apon.
My thought was make amends, to apologize, to say sorry, to wish you well.

I know telling me my grandaughter looks retarded, that my son looks like a crackhead, that my daughter is a scanky whore and that my son with brain cancer is stupid and blind seems funny to you . Whatever. If you think your disrrupting my day...I have to be honest with ya...your not.
Everytime you decide to check in I think about your family visiting us and laughing when they talked of how miserable you are {I mean come on..how could I possibly know everything I know if it weren't for your family}, your Dad's letters he's sent here apologizing for his son's behaviour {dont believe me, I'll copy them and mail them to you}, I feel the need to...

1. Run to Starbucks for a frappachino
2. Shop for new shoes
3. Roll my eyes
4. Laugh
5. Do a good deed.
6. Get on with my day

Everytime you talk about your body parts I feel the need to..

1. Hurl
2. Dream of living in Italy
3. Lock myself in a closet and sort out my shirts by color
4. Go back to bed

Everytime you threaten my daughter I feel the need to..

1. Contact her asap so she can call the local police.

Everytime I see a new message from you I feel the need to..

1. Yawn
2. Do laundry
3. See what's on TV
4. Ride in the family mini van with the windows down and the radio up loud.

Everytime I feel you've wasted more energy on me I feel..

1. I am not worthy
2. Inclined to have an even better day
3. Warm and fuzzy all over.
4. Doing three more good deeds.

OK...so this is like my last message to you, although I know with being a middle child..you love the attention.
But with myself being the oldest child..I am always, like never at a lose for words, but get bored easily.
So...with that, I just want you to know from the bottom of my heart that I wish you well in life, I really hope things go super good for you.
I hope you win the lottery, be loved, be admired, be respected, become a grandparent, and above all..I hope at the end of each day you can go to bed knowing you've made a positive difference in someones life.

I will be thinking of you everyday and of course will alway include your happiness in my prayers.

May your Christmas be cheerful and 2008 be spent happy and above all healthy.

Cheers..

Kim

13 comments:

Michelle said...

Kim...I'm so much in admiration of you this morning. I've read your past few blogs and how awesome of you to rise above the hurtful rants of this man. He will grow more from these comments than he ever could have from the other. What an awesome example you are for you children to handle this with such a "turn the other cheek" approach. You're children and grandchildren are beautiful and so blessed to have the parents they have. Your family is in my prayers and so will your brother-in-law be. Only God can grant him the peace that will get him past this time in his life. You hang in there and just continue to love your children and enjoy every minute of this Christmas season. Merry Christmas!!!!

Anonymous said...

WAY TO GO Kim! I just think your blog is great! Hope all of the "K" crew has a wonderful Holiday! And am pray for Mr. Kody that all goes well!

Love

Dottie

Anonymous said...

You go girl!

Cheri

Anonymous said...

Kim,
I am proud of the letter you wrote to your brother-in-law.
I sure hope he gets the message. I am sure he is jealous of you and your family, but maybe by some miracle he will find some one to share his life with.
Once again Happy Holidays to you and your family.
ps Praying every thing works out for Kody with his health problems. (It will he's strong with a loving family behind him)

Jen from WI said...

Well said Kim! I'm sorry this so-called family member feels the need to bash you. What a class A jerk! Wish I knew the guy cuz I'd go give him a good whoopin'. Stay strong K's - I luv yas!

Anonymous said...

Wow! That is so sad. I'm amazed at how nice you can be to someone like that. With everything you have going on in your life, you surely don't need someone like that to deal with. I've been following Kody's Caringbridge site for several years now and I had no idea this was going on. Please don't spend another minute thinking about him as he is not worth it! Your granddaughters are precious and you, your husband, and children seem to be very close and loving. I think the BIL is just jealous. Take care. Hazel in Texas

Anonymous said...

Wow! That is so sad. I'm amazed at how nice you can be to someone like that. With everything you have going on in your life, you surely don't need someone like that to deal with. I've been following Kody's Caringbridge site for several years now and I had no idea this was going on. Please don't spend another minute thinking about him as he is not worth it! Your granddaughters are precious and you, your husband, and children seem to be very close and loving. I think the BIL is just jealous. Take care. Hazel in Texas

Leeann said...

Kim,

From what little you just shared, it sounds like he is a real piece of work. Big high five and hug to you for taking the high road. You are setting a great example for your kids and all of us.

Leeann

Anonymous said...

mom, you forgot to tell kevin that i WORK in peekskill and live in HIGHLAND FALLS with my brother..anytime he wants to come over for for tea and crompets he is more then welcome!!! we live on the top road in the mountain and have the big trucks in the driveway!!

Anonymous said...

Oh Kim I just love your way with words. On a more serious note, I think you gave this guy much too much of your time. I know he is family, but still. People like that love when someone responds to them. Whether it be negative or positive. Now that you left it on a more positive note from your side with him, I would never ever respond to his negative behavior again. That would kill him more. Trust me. It may be hard, but it is the truth. You have a beautiful family, as I think you know. Don't ever let someone tell you otherwise. With Love,

Debbie from NY

Anonymous said...

I am so glad you posted this. Not meaning this in a bad way, but I was shocked at you, who are normally so sweet and loving, calling someone elses daughter a prostitute. That is just not you at all. Now I understand more why you were so upset. Of course you know your precious grandbaby is adorable and your sons are perfect and very handsome. And while we don't allow the gothic look for personal reasons, your daughter seems like a very good girl, content to stay at home and hang with her family. She expresses her fashion differently, she is always covered decently and she certainly does not look "slutty". I am sorry you heard those awful words, and from a family member no less. I think you are doing the right thing though, some people just aren't worth your time or emotions. Delete whatever he prints and ignore him and eventually he will find someone else to vent his own frusterations at. You know your family is precious, you don't have to defend them to someone like that.

Jennifer said...

Kim, we have talked about that person and his problems before, and I am glad you finally took the time to respond to him, and hope he will get the hint for once. :)

Well, one person's nastiness can be easily diminished by the thousands of people that wish you and your family well.

Jen in California

Anonymous said...

Kim, I remember several years ago when a certain family member was giving you grief. In some odd way I'm hoping it's the same person so you don't have to have "yet another" individual to deal with. The things that are being said about your family are obviously horrible. Kody's perfect. Kaysha's obviously not a prostitute, and poor KK for having to deal with threats. Being a fellow New Yorker I trust KK has called the authorities, if need be. I trust they'd be at her door step in a heart beat.

I have to admit...both posts have impressed me, for their own reasons. I think you've handled this well, and even though I'm sure your posts, and our comments, don't matter much to your BIL, it sure does feel good to get it off your chest, huh?! :)

Give Kody a big Bear Hug from me.

Love,
Shiela
~NY~, USA!!!

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