Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Another Heartbreaking Loss

Last night we found out that Karl's oldest son, Billy, who lives in NY passed away suddenly and unexpectedly.
We are, as you can imagine, devastated.
We will be starting grief counseling through hospice this week, I already went to the initial appointment yesterday.
Kody is in rough shape, really rough shape.
The counselor told me yesterday that we were dealt a double whammy as if grief wasn't enough he feels we are all suffering from something called "Post Traumatic Stress Disorder".
I think he's right. :(

I am still trying my best to catch up on e-mails, hang in there please I will answer every one, I promise.

Till then, I'd like to take a minute to remember with love, Billy Danato. Brother and friend to all of my children and son to my beautiful Vinny.
I can only imagine, as both being mechanics that they are fixing and/or making things better/faster like mad. As if Heaven needed fixing, huh? :)



Pictures are from 2005.

More to come soon, including Kody making "Student of the Month" in his High School, his haircut, our plans for the near future and pictures of our jewelry that came in last night and in which I picked up from the funeral home this morning.
The lockets that hold my Angel's remains and thumbprint are absolutely indescribably gorgeous.




Lynn said...

Oh my. :"( I just don't have any words. I'm so sorry to hear this latest terribly sad news.
I think it's a very good thing to attend some grief counseling through hospice. They are so good and you guys need some encouragement right now.
So proud of Kody for continuing to do well in school despite all the distractions and emotional trama. So proud of him for donating his lovely locks recently as well - what good boys you have Kim, and I know you are so grateful for them.

Can't wait to see pics of that new haircut. I always thought Kody was beautiful with his close-cut styles as well. Hey, a hunk is a hunk, right! : )

Keep loving each other and holding each other close.

Pam said...

Sending prayers to your family on another terrible loss. I am so sorry Kim.

Anonymous said...

OMG! Not another tragic loss for you. Isn't it strange how you always hear a parent should never lose a child...maybe dad knew what was coming his way and didn't want his son to face it alone? I don't know, but just trying to understand what is going on. Thoughts and prayers with ALL of you.

Olympia, WA
Kody follower

Sea52Jay said...

I am so so sorry my friend. It just seems to never end. I am glad you are starting counseling, all of you. I am worried about all of you but Kody really had me concerned last night and he got extra prayers. I am really really worried about him. I am sending you a virtual hug my sister/friend and tons of love. The jewelry is beautiful. Wish I knew what to say. Love you all, CJ

Tracey said...

Kim, my heart and prayers go out to you and your family. Your son is so right... what a horrible double whammy! So hard for an adult to understand. Even harder for a child. You all have been put through so much. I hope that the grief counseling helps. Sending prayers for more rainbows and snakes to come your way! All my best.

Anonymous said...

Continued prayers and hugs to you and your family.

Connie F-G
LaVista NE

Jenner said...

I'm so, so sorry...keeping you all in my prayers.
Jen from WI

leese said...

My condolences on this loss for your family. When it rains.......
There's little doubt PTSD may be part of what you're all experiencing. I do hope the grief counseling helps you all with the tools needed to navigate this 'new' lift that's in front of you.
Waiting for something,anything amazing to happen for your family. You're overdue <3

Shiela in NY said...

Goodness, Kim. I'm so sorry to hear about Karl's oldest son passing. Your children do not need to be going through another loss of life. :( I'm so glad you are all going to get the grief couseling. I've been checking on you daily, just for any sign of updates on here. I'm glad the memory jewelry came in. I still think the thumbprint idea is so great. I had never heard of that until you told me.

Congrats to Kody on his school award. He's such an awesome kid, but you already know that!! :)

Love & tons of hugs...Shiela

Anonymous said...

Wow, so very sorry to hear of yet another loss/blow to your family.
Wish i could do something to help you all.Just know that you all are in my thoughts daily.
Donna, ny

tcsTenor said...

Praying for you all, Kim. Enough tragedy for one family. Don't feel guilty for having some fun and laughing. Karl would not want you to be continually sad. Time for some happiness for all of you!

Anonymous said...

I am at a loss for words. I am so very sorry to hear of your famiy's loss.

I have been in counseling for 3 years now, and yes PTSD. You can't travel this road unharmed, no matter how strong you are or try to be. And now, with your dear Karl gone, it is good to reach out for guidance. Hospice is an awesome organization.

My thoughts and prayers continue to be with all of you.

Debbie, Mom of Shannon

Tracy Solomon said...

Kim, I was in the kitchen tonight thinking about you and just how different life must be for each for you (that was less than 2 hours ago) and I just received an email telling me about this recent loss.

I think about you and your family so often these days as I have always done throughout the years as I feel we have faced such similar circumstances in the past. But now, I cannot imagine your life.

I know you are strong and I know your children have the best person beside them to get through anything. I just think about you so often and I want you to know that. You and your family are often in are prayers and I think and prayer for you often with my morning coffee (which, like you last well into the afternoons).

Love always, Tracy (and Katia)

Robin said...

I am so very sorry for yet another loss in your family. There are truly no words. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. My deepest condolences.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear that you have another huge loss. OK GOD, enough for this wonderful family,they are strong but enough already. Praying that you find some peace in all of this.

Mave said...

Oh my God Kim!!!! I just found a link to your blog via Tracy/ Katia FB page... I've been crying ever since! OMG! OMG! OMG! Please call me. Anytime day or night. 908-797-0755
Much love and many hugs to all of you
Mave (KAM)

Anonymous said...

I am sorry.

tricia said...

so sorry to hear this tragic news. Karl welcomed him with loving arms.

Sherry said...

Kim,So sorry... sending extra prayers for all.Glad you are getting counseling.Hoping Kody is better and hold each other close,for Love is what you need.Hugs sent from afar know that you are thought of.Sherry

Anonymous said...

So, so sorry, Kim....no words. Just prayers for all of you.
Liz, NY


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